Have you ever been put in a situation where you had to choose between what you were being told was the right thing to do and what you felt was the right thing to do?
You will be living with your decisions for the rest of your life. One of the greatest purposes in this world is to help those around you succeed and prosper. Through helping others, ultimately you are helping yourself. When you serve others, serve out of love and kindness with no expectations or conditions. Your love will touch so many more lives than you will ever realize, and it will in turn teach, grow and bless you.
It is so important to be able to separate your heart from your head.Your heart leads with love and compassion and your head leads with fear and doubt. Focus and learn the different tones between the two so that you can live a life full of positivity that has no room for the negative. If there is any bitterness, anger, resentment, sadness in a decision it may be your head leading the charge. When you lead with your heart you feel fulfilled, loved, empowered, and whole. When you lead with your heart you become a servant to yourself and others.
“Learn how to serve others, always putting others before yourself is not healthy.”
Learn how to serve others, always putting others before yourself is not healthy. You can’t trample yourself in the process of serving others. Many don’t quite understand service. We think that we must abuse and neglect ourselves in order to truly serve. However if we do this we have nothing left to give. In an airplane crash you must first put on your mask before the person next to you. This is so that you don’t pass out while trying to help them due to lack of oxygen. The same is true of life, if you don’t take the time to properly care for yourself you will be no good to anyone else. Grant yourself permission to first take care of yourself so that you can then serve others.
Was standing in your truth worth the consequences that followed?
My advice to you is to remain strong in your convictions. Be careful with your actions, as every action has a consequence and it may not necessarily be the one you desire. Listen to those around you, they may see something that you don’t. Heed the warning of your friends and family, and don’t let your emotions blind you. Ask for forgiveness and understanding before acting out of anger, damaging relationships and hurting those around you.
I wish that I had been more mature and insightful back then. I have had to go back and apologize while also seeking forgiveness. Sometimes you have to take responsibility for your faults and repair the damage that you caused. Remember forgiving someone is not to benefit them, but to benefit you. You cannot move forward while harboring bitterness and resentment in your heart. Thank the thought or memory for what it has taught you, love it for serving you when you needed it, forgive it for the pain it caused and then release it. If you stuff your emotions and don’t learn the lesson that it was meant to teach then you will find that it continues to rear its ugly head physically, mentally or spiritually.
Don’t forget to check out the Introduction post for the “Reflection Blog Series”
Read the next blog in the Reflections Series, “Standing Up for Yourself”
From the book “Stuck in the Fire” By Christina Encarnacion
Get your copy here.
Stuck In The Fire is an interactive self-exploration book that pulls you in and allows you to be a part of the story. Christina shares her life experiences with you that have taught her how to navigate through this life on earth. She allows you into the halls of her heart and lets you learn through her own struggles of illness, loss, abuse and emotional turmoil so that you may be able to find strength, hope and understanding of why we must endure the pains of this world. She guides you through uncovering your own personal power that may be hiding inside of you and coaches you into harnessing it and fulfilling your life’s purpose.