Have you ever had to deal with the loss of a loved one?
When dealing with grief you will experience a wide array of emotions; anger, guilt, sorrow, confusion. It is very important that you allow yourself to run through each of these emotions. Don’t deny yourself from feeling them as each of these feelings serves a purpose in your healing journey. You never want to rush your feelings, you must honor them so that you can completely heal. It is said that there are 7 stages of grief. There is no set time limit on each stage. Honoring yourself and the stages as you move through each one is the most loving thing you can do for yourself. Each stage has a lesson to teach us. When you can see through your pain to embrace the lesson, you are able to get through the grief easier than fighting it. When I lost my daughter I ignored my feelings and allowed the grief to consume me. The emotions which I thought I was successfully running from, ended up consuming me and negatively impacting my life through anger and rage.
At times anger can consume you and rightfully so. Before you unleash your emotions, question the situation and make sure that you are handling it in the correct way. My husband has an amazing gift of keeping a calm head in every situation. I, on the other hand, am extremely passionate and tend to let my emotions and actions run wild. Over the years I have learned from my husband to never act on impulse. I now, digest and breathe before reacting. Sometimes it is best to set your ego aside and let the lessons play out. At times we need to watch and learn, other times you have to stand up for yourself and fight for what is right. But always think first and make sure that what you are doing is not going to harm or create pain for yourself or others. Greif can stretch and grow you if you let it. Do your best to always be able to stand behind your actions and be proud of what you are doing, living in integrity with yourself.
Also be cautious of stuffing your emotions and not processing them. If you ignore or stuff your emotion they will cause you pain and illness. Every physical ailment is caused by a suppressed emotion. You have to deal with them as they come, process them, digest them. Pull the lesson out of the situation, then release it and move on. If you don’t take these steps you will keep a piece of you stuck in that situation. It is up to you not to relive it and feel those negative emotions over and over again. If these feelings are left unaddressed eventually they will physically manifest within your body and wreak even more havoc in your life.
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From the book “Stuck in the Fire” By Christina Encarnacion
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Stuck In The Fire is an interactive self-exploration book that pulls you in and allows you to be a part of the story. Christina shares her life experiences with you that have taught her how to navigate through this life on earth. She allows you into the halls of her heart and lets you learn through her own struggles of illness, loss, abuse and emotional turmoil so that you may be able to find strength, hope and understanding of why we must endure the pains of this world. She guides you through uncovering your own personal power that may be hiding inside of you and coaches you into harnessing it and fulfilling your life’s purpose.