Have you ever tried to justify someone’s poor treatment of you, convincing yourself you deserved it?
No matter what you have done in life, you don’t deserve to be mistreated or abused. You are your own best friend or worst enemy. Which do you choose to be? When you are allowing yourself to remain in an abusive situation, take a step back and remind yourself that you are worthy to be loved and you deserve so much more than your current situation. God created you for a reason; you are needed here on this earth. You give value to this world even if you don’t realize it. Don’t ever allow yourself to believe the lies. No matter what path you have chosen to follow in this life you are not condemned to misery forever. You are allowed to embrace your own choices, don’t lose your worth simply because you didn’t follow someone else’s direction for your life. You can change your chosen path in a day, any minute, even any second. If you wake up one day and feel as though you are not where you belong then make a shift. You care in control even when you may not feel as though you are.
“Don’t ever allow yourself to believe the lies.”
It is so amazing how shifting perspective is so powerful and can literally change your reality. If you are miserable in your life and feel completely stuck you will remain stuck. Your mind will tell you that there is nothing you can do, no way you can change your circumstances. However if you consciously decide I am not stuck and decide to be happy and move in a different direction it will change your reality and you will be happy. However it is a choice to do this. At times you may need to remind yourself that you are unsticking yourself and you are now happy but eventually your mind will shift, doors will open and you will accomplish a life of fulfillment.
Have you ever had an internal battle with yourself not knowing which direction to head in or what decision to make?
There are so many external influences that try to change our own beliefs, thoughts, morals. But we must learn to go within ourselves and find our own answers for our lives that we are living and make these hard decisions on our own. Many times, it is hard for us to stand up for ourselves, especially women. We judge and condemn ourselves and then open it up for everyone else to throw in their opinions on our lives. Sometimes it is best for you to take time for yourself and get to know the person who lives inside of YOU. Learn to love yourself and find your true power. When times get tough the biggest cheerleader you can have is yourself. Live your life out loud, believing in yourself and your choices.
“Learn to love yourself and find your true power.”
Ask yourselves hard questions, re-evaluate those hard situations you have been through that have molded and shaped you into who you are today and see if you have left any lessons on the table. Do you need to change your perspective on your past? Do you have any gaping wounds that you need to address? Are you ready to re-live that pain and begin to heal them and grow from them? You have to be prepared to revisit these lessons and if you need support, reach out and ask for it.
View the previous post in the Reflections Series, “Living with Our Decisions”.
View the next post in the Reflections Series, “Abusive Relationships”
From the book “Stuck in the Fire” By Christina Encarnacion
Get your copy here.
Stuck In The Fire is an interactive self-exploration book that pulls you in and allows you to be a part of the story. Christina shares her life experiences with you that have taught her how to navigate through this life on earth. She allows you into the halls of her heart and lets you learn through her own struggles of illness, loss, abuse and emotional turmoil so that you may be able to find strength, hope and understanding of why we must endure the pains of this world. She guides you through uncovering your own personal power that may be hiding inside of you and coaches you into harnessing it and fulfilling your life’s purpose.